3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Business Owners
We’ve all felt it—that icky feeling that starts in our mind and works its way down to our heart and gut. That feeling of jealousy, of comparison, of “not good enough.”
We scroll through Instagram, we visit website links, we see the results other people are posting and then the questions pile on top of one another:
The comparison game is a game no one should partake in, because it’s a game you can’t win. No matter how hard you try.
If you compare yourself to someone else and feel like you fall short, feelings of inadequacy arise.
If you compare yourself to someone else and feel like you’re better, feelings of superiority and pride rise up.
Both of those are negative, nasty emotions. Being humble is one thing. And being proud of yourself is another. But, you all KNOW the kind of “not-good-enough” and “I’m-better-than” feelings I’m talking about, and I think we can all agree that they don’t serve you or your business.
So, how do we overcome the comparison game and stay confident in who we are and what we’re doing? Here are 3 steps to do just that:
Keep your head down and focused on what you’re chasing. Otherwise, you’re looking everywhere else, following what others are doing, and you’ll end up chasing what they’re chasing which may not be your end goal.
Ya know how when you’re driving, your vehicle goes in the direction you’re looking? The same applies to your business. Keep your eyes in your lane and you won’t see what others around you are doing, because you’ll be focused on what you’re doing.
That’s not to say that you should be aware of your market and your competitors. You should be, but “awareness” and “focus” are two very different. Be aware of your competitors and colleagues, but be focused on you.
If you’ve only been in business for two years, stop comparing yourself to the person who’s been in business for 10 and 15. Also, if someone whose been in business for 2 years is way ahead of you and you’ve been in business for 5, don’t get down on yourself. That business owner might have a lot more hours to put towards their business, they might not have a family, they might have different goals, and they’re plate might not be as full as yours. We never know someone else’s story, vision, or ideas around work-life balance, so we really cannot compare on an apples-to-apples basis.
We’re all different. We all have different circumstances, and we all have different goals in mind.
Ok, I don’t know why exactly this is true, but when you start celebrating someone else, the jealousy and feelings of inadequacy start to disappear. You get caught up in that air of excitement and gratitude and it propels your own business forward.
It’s like that whole “you reap what you sow” principle. Every time you feel icky feelings creep up when you’re looking at someone else’s success, send congratulations their way. Take that insecurity and turn it into inspiration.
So stay in your lane—stay on your course. We have to decide what “succeeding” means to us and not compare that to others goals. Set your own and strive to make them.
Having a unique brand that is true to you will always help you stand out to your people and when you know you’re being true to yourself, your vision, and your goals, you don’t have to worry about what others are doing.
If you feel like you’re not being true to yourself in your business or you don’t have a stand out brand….
Hearts and Hoorays friends!
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